Would you like to know the complaints that girls have about guys?
Here, you have the most common mistakes guys make with girls.
1 Not Making Definite Plans
One thing that girls hate is not having a date planned. They complain that many guys ask them to meet and then ask what they want to do.
If you ask a girl to meet you, you have to prepare everything.
Where to go, how to get there, what to do, etc. You can’t ask her what she wants to do. You should take her to places without asking her opinion all the time.
If she wants to go to a specific place, she will let you know, but you are in charge of the planning.
2 Don’t Reply Messages Properly
Normally, when a girl contacts you, she is giving you a sign that she wants to meet you, even if she doesn’t say so directly.
For example, when a girl sends you a text saying, “I miss you” or “I was thinking about you” or whatever, don’t reply “me too.” Make a date.
Usually, a girl will not directly ask you to meet her. She will simply contact you and wait for you to make a move.
By the way, I suggest you to use your mobile only to set up a meeting, not to talk or chat.
3 Don’t Communicate
Some guys get angry and leave or don’t talk (I used to do this). It’s important to talk calmly.
If you disagree, just say so, but nicely. It doesn’t mean you have to accept abusive behavior.
If the girl is not respectful, tell her that you will not accept it and that you will talk when she calms down.
However, I suggest you to stay away from rude and disrespectful people. Don’t tolerate it more than once a year.
4 Pushing To Be In a Relationship
Girls need time to want to be in an exclusive relationship.
Many girls complain that guys try to force it by asking questions such as “And now what? Am I your boyfriend?”
Girls are the ones who set the time. It doesn’t mean they decide the kind of relationship you have.
You should think about what you want, but if you want an exclusive relationship, wait for her to bring it up. That’s how it works.
If you don’t want to be her boyfriend, say nothing until she mentions it. Then you can make it clear you don’t want that.
What doesn’t work is bringing it up. You need to give her feelings time to flourish. You can’t force it.
5 Be Too Emotional
No matter what magazines tell you, men can’t be sensitive. No girl likes a man who often cries.
(Besides that. Do you really want to cry often? Then you need some help)
If you don’t believe me, just try it. Start crying every day in front of your girlfriend, and see what happens.
It doesn’t mean you have to be a cold fish. There are two different things. You should be sweet, take care of her, kiss her a lot, etc.
But we are not allowed to be weak. Again, as much as magazines may say, we can’t be that way.
If you are worried about anything, talk with your friends, not your girlfriend.
6 She Needs to Feel Special
This is something that girls complain about a lot. You need to make her feel special. But, as with anything, you should find a balance.
It’s not about giving her flowers every day. It’s not about material things.
She needs to feel she is receiving preferential treatment from you. But I insist it is important not to go too far.
Your family, friends, hobbies, and goals in life are important. Don’t forget them.
7 Talk Too Much About Yourself
Especially the first time you meet a girl, don’t talk about how much you make or things like that.
What you are really saying is “I am not enough so I need to brag about money.”
It’s not cool. We should make girls talk.
On average, a girl talks twice as much as a guy. We should let them talk about themselves.
8 Be Jealous
Jealousy shows a lack of self-confidence. But that doesn’t mean that if the girl does something inappropriate, we shouldn’t call her out, but always with good manners.
Make it clear you will not tolerate that kind of behavior, and that if she keeps doing it, you will break up. Never, ever tolerate lack of respect from anybody.
On the other hand, we might feel jealous without reason, which could be caused by our own insecurities.
We need to be careful with this. It can end a relationship, and it is also bad for ourselves.
You might also come across a case where she wants to make you jealous. Some girls like to test you. You can’t fail or she will keep doing it.
On the other hand, you could do the same and subtly make her jealous. It is important that she doesn’t think it is on purpose, though.
If you are successful, you will be in a good position, because normally girls are more jealous than guys, and she will think twice before she tries to make you jealous again.
9 Talk About ex-Girlfriends
Never talk about past relationships, especially if you’re complaining about them.
If you say something like “I had a girlfriend who treated me badly” or “my last ex-girlfriend was a bitch,” the only one who looks bad with such comments is you.
Because remember that you chose to be with that “bitch,” and somehow you are responsible for that. So man up, learn from it, and forget it.
A valid answer would be, “I have been with some girls, and it was all good. Finally, it didn’t work, but that’s OK.”
If the girl insists (as they normally do), tell her that’s all, and that you don’t want to talk about past relationships.
With these suggestions, your relationship with girls will improve enormously.