A long time ago I had a friend, who theoretically, was my best friend. We laughed a lot together, and we normally had great experiences.
For a long time, I ignored that I was paying a high price for that entertainment. Without realizing it I was in a toxic relationship.
Ever happened to you?
How Went my Toxic Relationship
My “friend” was extremely manipulative. He always did things in a way that it was right for him, and he didn’t care about the rest of the people.
He was a genius in the art of brainwashing people to make them do what he wanted. He should have run a sect.
In several occasions, I thought to end up the friendship with him. Even if we had fun together, I knew deep inside that it wasn’t a positive relationship for me.
We had a couple of big arguments, and we stopped talking for a while. Unfortunately, we finally became friends again.
The years that we knew each other was a strong reason to forgive and forget. A typical mistake.
It doesn’t matter how many years you met that person. Now that person is making your life miserable. So it should be ended.
The End of the Toxic Relationship
One day I went to visit my “friend” at the movie theater where he was working. He was the responsible of the projectors. I used to go there to drink beer with him while he was working on the night shift. When he finished, we went out to the club.
That day, however, I didn’t feel like going out, and so I told him. He insisted a lot go with him.
As I say no and no again, which was strange for him, he started to get angry and to raise his voice.
Seen his attitude I decided to leave. Then he shouted me:
“Don’t turn your back on me!”
That was the trigger that made me realize there was not coming back. I started to walk fast to go home.
He was working so he couldn’t follow me. Seeing that he could lose one of his followers he began to apologize, but it was too late.
After so many years hooked I finally was mentally free in a moment. I kept walking away from the cinema.
One of his follower-friends came to me trying to calm me down and insisted on coming back and talking about it together.
This guy tried until we arrived at the Metro. Once there he insisted that I wait there for a while and he will come back with my “friend”.
That it just was a misunderstanding and it was not needed to get so angry. I told him that yes, that no problem and that I will wait.
The guy came back to the cinema and I stayed at the Metro. But once the metro came I left.
Ending the Toxic Relationship
A month later my “friend” and I met by chance. We talked cordially for half an hour. He thought that everything was fine again and we were best friends once more. Like nothing had happened. But he was totally wrong.
The decision was made, and when I saw him I didn’t even doubt. The contrary that it had happened in the past when I came back on his side like a dog.
That day we said “see you another time”, but we have never met again.
Ending this toxic relationship, I felt like I drop a backpack full of stones.
I would say that this moment was the trigger to other ones which changed my life.
Unfortunately, I made the same mistake again with Marie. A French girl that I met in Cambodia.
It is one of the chapters that I explain in my first book Stories of Love and Sex.